023 - Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak: Part 2

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Many of us have been through a devastating breakup. Whether it was a long-term relationship or a marriage, there is nothing more painful than the loneliness of crushing heartbreak. But, in my 20 years working as a divorce lawyer, I've witnessed some incredible transformations; clients who not too long ago wandered into my office in a daze of devastation now live vibrant, happy lives.

 

This five-part series, called The Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak, captures the wisdom of my clients and puts it into a strategic guide for anyone struggling to overcome the aching loneliness of divorce or separation.

 

Part 2: Weaving Your Social Fabric focuses on the importance of getting off social media, reconnecting with family and friends, and developing meaningful relationships with people who share your interests.

 

Links

Antidote To Crushing Heartache ~ Part 1: Hope & Understanding

The Journey Is Too Painful To Go Alone: Why I Recommend Counselling To My Divorce Clients

 

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022 - Antidote to Crushing Heartbreak: A 5-Part Series (Part 1 ~ Hope & Understanding)

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Many of us have been through a devastating breakup. Whether it was a long-term relationship or a marriage, there is nothing more painful than the loneliness of crushing heartbreak. But, in my 20 years working as a divorce lawyer, I've witnessed some incredible transformations; clients who not too long ago wandered into my office in a daze of devastation now live vibrant, happy lives.

This five-part series, called The Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak, captures the wisdom of my clients and puts it into a strategic guide for anyone struggling to overcome the aching loneliness of divorce or separation.

Part 1: Hope & Understanding helps to put into perspective why the pain is so intense, and shares the inspiring story of one client who suffered incredibly - and who now leads a rewarding and fulfilling life.

Links

Susan Pinker - The Village Effect https://www.susanpinker.com/

Why We Recommend Counselling To Our Divorce Clients - https://www.hemmingerlawgroup.com/divorce-and-counselling.html

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021 – How to Defend Against Crushing Stress

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Contrary to what a lot of people say, anger, fear, and sadness are all a necessary part of life. Problems with these emotions arise when our fear causes us to become paralyzed, our anger to rage, or our sadness tips us into despair.

This is what can happen when we become overwhelmed by stress. Our reaction to stress can make it hard for us to be present with our loved ones, with our kids, our spouses and our friends.

This week’s episode is all about building a moat around our ourselves and protecting our personal space, so that we can remain present, happy, and healthy.

 “We may not have the power to control our world, but we do have the power to defend the good within it.” - Shawn Achor, author of Big Potential

 Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on Facebook.

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020 - What Now? Recreating Life After Divorce and Separation

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Val is a divorce lawyer whose clients are often people who find themselves at a place in their life that they didn’t expect to be. In today’s episode she shares inspiring insight and words of encouragement for anyone going through divorce or separation.
 
Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on Facebook.
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019 - When Life Feels Hopeless - How You Can Be A Cultural Ambassador to Help

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In today's world it can be hard to not get wrapped up in the negativity. It seems to come at us from all angles - at work, in the news, and even in the TV shows that we watch.

 

This podcast / video is all about taking responsibility to maintain our own positive energy, and then sharing that positive energy to uplift those around us!

 

Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village, you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on Facebook.

 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger's Free eBook

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018 - Embrace Relying Upon Others

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We need interconnectedness to thrive and do well in life. When Val once had a Tarot reading, she was told that her success and happiness in life would depend on her working with others and giving to others.

 

At the time, Val felt a sense of shame or embarrassment that she would need to have help from others. We have a culture that teaches us to be independent, but this may not be the best thing for us.

 

Val now realizes now that it’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s what we all need. Working together and having connections in life is important for each and every one of us.

 

Links:

 

Big Potential by Shawn Achor

 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger's Free eBook

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017 - When Your Life Unexpectedly Falls Apart - How One Single Parent Created Her Own Extended Family and Village

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Life doesn’t always go as planned. Candy is a superstar legal assistant at Hemminger Law Group Westshore who unexpectedly became a single parent.

 

Despite having a partner and a plan when she became pregnant, the partner left Candy to have the child as a single parent, pulling the carpet out from under her.

 

While this was devastating and brought a wave of challenges, it hasn’t stopped Candy from doing what’s needed to create a rich and satisfying life for both her and her child.

 

Candy and her ex-partner have even been able to do things together as a family, for the sake of the child, even though each parent lives in a different home and there is no romantic relationship.

 

Links:

 

WorkLink - WorkBC Employment Services Centre

 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger's Free eBook

 

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016 - Creating Happy The European Way

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“The greatest ingredient for human happiness is being with other people.”

Gezelligheid is a Dutch word that relates to the heart. It encompasses the heart of Dutch culture. Val is currently visiting Haarlem in the Netherlands and experiencing Gezelligheid first-hand. It’s the effort people make to make others feel comfy, cozy and wanting to stay. It’s a lot like Hygge, but more social.

The concept is more about a feeling, rather than words to describe it. In this episode, Val talks about her experience with Gezelligheid and how we can apply it to our lives in North America.

Links:

How to say Gezelligheid

Gezelligheid vs Hygge

Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking

Jopenkerk Pub

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger's Free eBook

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015 - The Hygge Life: How To Create A Family

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In the last episode, you heard about the concept of Hygge. Hygge originates in Denmark, and relates to being cozy, connected, and to paying attention to the little comforts life has to offer.

 

Today, we explore the idea further, specifically how you can use Hygge to create community and family connections that will help you thrive.

 

Hygge helps us provide a cultural framework, or canvas, upon which we can develop the Hygge personal experiences.

Danes don’t expect Hygge to come to them. They create it. They create it purposefully and do so consciously. Like everything that matters, there is an effort involved, and it is a priority. They do this with their relationships also. Using Hygge they purposefully create their relationships.

 

Links:

Iben Sandahl The Danish Way of Parenting

Sandahl being interviewed for How To Be Married

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger's Free eBook

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014 - Creating the Hygge Life

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What do comfy sweaters, candles, book clubs, and fall camping? If you can't quite put your finger on the word, maybe it's because you've never heard it before! The answer is Hygge. Hygge is the Scandinavian word for a mood of coziness and comfortable conviviality with feelings of wellness and contentment. It has become a defining characteristic of Danish culture. Since the Danes remain some of the happiest people in the world, it's worth taking a look at Hygge, which is thought to be one of the big reasons for their life satisfaction. 

Book: The Hygge Life: Embracing the Nordic Art of Coziness

 

Homemade Hot Chocolate Recipe:

Heat up milk and don’t boil, whisk in other ingredients and then top with whipped cream

  • 4 cups whole milk

  • 10 oz or higher cacao/chocolate

  • 3 T unsalted butter

  • pinch salt

  • whipped cream

Heat up milk but don’t boil, whisk in other ingredients and then top with whipped cream.

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